I know it%26#039;s long but i%26#039;d REALLY appreciate some help. Heres my situation.
I%26#039;ve been friends with this girl forEVER....and she pretty much hates me now because...she told me this secret....but i didn%26#039;t really know it was a secret, but i guess it was..and i told my other friend. I really didn%26#039;t mean to, but now i see that regardless, i shouldn%26#039;t have told...even if i knew it wasn%26#039;t a secret...well she blocked and and deleted me off facebook, i apoligised to her, and now if i try to takl to anyone associated with both of us, they completely ignore me or just are very rude... A while back she told a bunch of people my biggest secret, but i don%26#039;t really care about that anymore. I apologised, i told her i honestly didn%26#039;t know but that that isn%26#039;t an excuse...but she still won%26#039;t answer anything. She claims that i %26quot;take out my rage on her all the time%26quot; but...i dont%26#039; recall having any rage...but it worries me because ..my parents are divorced, and i do half time. well my dad always say si%26#039;m going to turn out just like my mom if i keep doing half time because i%26#039;ll be around her so much. (she tries to steal my dad%26#039;s money all the time and refuses to admit her affair as a mistake)....but it worries me that i don%26#039;t remmeber having %26quot;rage%26quot; or anything because that%26#039;s exactly what my mom would do. So i%26#039;m worried i%26#039;m turning out like her :%26#039;( I CAN%26#039;T turn out like her, i%26#039;ll do anything not to but i really don%26#039;t remember this %26quot;rage.%26quot; i have been a bit testy, but that%26#039;s because whenver i told her my problems she%26#039;s laugh...but i know she didn%26#039;t mean it like that..but at the time i didn%26#039;t know that.
I%26#039;m just on one hand insanely worried that i%26#039;m turning out like my mom and my dad is right, and that makes me want to rethink the half time thing...and on the other hand i%26#039;m worried about my friendship. What else should i do? Please help me
I%26#039;m desperate. I%26#039;ve been crying for 2 hours straight. i CAN%26#039;T turn out liek my mother....i refuse, and i don%26#039;t want this friendship to end either. I am truly sorry. and she%26#039;s also mad that my friend was being REALLY mean to her, but that wasn%26#039;t my doing. I know i%26#039;ve made some mistakes, and i already apoligised a few times...what else can i do?
URGHH but i keep changing my mind! everyone in my life who knows this girl keeps telling me that i shouldn%26#039;t be around her because she %26quot;makes me feel like crap%26quot; they say because they think she tries to prove she%26#039;s better than me at everything...but i don%26#039;t really know what to think. Sometimes i do feel that way, but now that she%26#039;s mad at me adn won%26#039;t talk to me, i feel HORRIBLE, so i don%26#039;t think that%26#039;s it. i just hate that i%26#039;m changing my mind so much. my mom did that a lot too when she was having the affair when i was a kid and URGHHHH!!!
seriuosely, help. I%26#039;m so desperate i can%26#039;t even explain. I%26#039;m a mess|||youve appologised and thats enough. if she makes you feel like crap then stay away from her.
your father is a ********, you arent like your mother and you wont turn out like her, you have a heightened sense of awareness and it seems that she doesnt know what she is doing. people make mistakes and they are forgiven for them. tell your dad you dont want to be around him if he speaks to you like that because it makes you feel bad about yourself.
find new friends and learn from your mistakes, and you should consider anything someone says to you about themself or another person as confidential and not to be told to other people. the reason other people dont want to be your friend is because the other girl has told everyone that youre a bad friend and you spill secrets and talk behind other peoples backs. |||You created it and now go clean it up.|||Give it some time. Your head will clear, and then their fury will die down a bit. It will be easier to solve, and things will all work themselves out. Sometimes you just have to wait things out...
But I think there%26#039;s a bigger underlying problem here. The issues you have with worry about turning out like your mother... Only you can control it. Make a conscious effort daily to not be like her. It will be hard, but if you really don%26#039;t want to end up like that, you will change.|||relax.. you can only apologise so many times.
be the person you want to be..
this girl doesn%26#039;t sound like she%26#039;s worth it anyway with all her sooking about a secret i mean she sounds really annoying and immature.. give her time to get over it and if she doesn%26#039;t well her loss you sound better than that..
and as for you turning into your mother.. think about yourself, what goes through your mind? do you think you%26#039;re a good person? or do you see your mother? you make that decision, not the people around you|||heeey cmon buddy,u r not a mess,such things do happen.well first u get that thing outta ur mind that eveythings goin bad n cheer up.
ok now i think that u screwed up unknowingly and then u even apologised aplenty of times 2 that girl.well i think that u shouldnt try anymore coz if she waasnt that insane she shouldnt hav splieed all u beans 2 a bunch of friends.
still if u wanna try last time, arrange a big greeting card 4 her and write in it that %26quot;if u feel that u shouldnt b my friend then, i wont urge but lemme clear b4 that,that what i did was unknowingly done n that i hav already felt sorry coz i losed u.still waitn 4 u.No regrets%26quot;
if she cumes back then it s good or else dont again try 2 apologise.
I wanna tell u one thing,dont again think abt ur mom n that friends again coz that may invite more mental tension 2 u,so pls get outta of that ASAP.Dont cry n remeber u r NOT a mess.
c ya buddy.
tc
|||wow.....%26amp; i thought i was mess
well u did all u can do
if she dosen%26#039;t want 2 talk 2 u then i her problem not yours
u tryed 2 make things right which is good, but u did all what u could do.
now about your mom.................................
if u try not 2 be like her then u won%26#039;t end up being like her.
its your choice
how cares if they say your like her
you don%26#039;t need to be
be your own person not someone else
-be yourself=]|||Well when I was younger things like this would happen to me all the time, at that time in my life though I was not living for God I was living for myself. True friendship is one where your friend is not going to laugh at you over something you deeply feel is serious to you. True friendship is when they are going to be there for the other person regardless if they make a mistake. If I were you I would pray to Jesus and ask him for 1st of all for his will to be done about this friendship, 2nd I would ask God to give you wisdom and knowledge to know what to say to this %26quot;girlfriend%26quot; of yours. 3rd I would just pray for any ounce of anger that you have to have God take it away from you. (you need to pray) Also, I would pray for your enemies....meaning your mom and the feelings you have towards her and towards your friend. The only thing you can do is change yourself and pray for others to change. I hope this message helped you out some. I%26#039;m praying for you. Please be blessed by this message!!!!
God Bless, NoJo
My e-mail is nora.hendrickson@yahoo.com if you ever feel you need to talk to anyone. |||Remember, People make mistakes. Dont blame it all to yourself. You already apologized to her and i think that you shouldn%26#039;t overdo it. If your friend still doesn%26#039;t wants to talk to you then the best way that you can do is just accept it and let it go. Try to move on with your life.
And based on your story, she%26#039;s not a good friend coz you mentioned that you%26#039;ve been friends for a long time and then suddenly she gave up on you easily, just like that. Without really talking things out, i mean think about it.
And another thing, dont let anyone%26#039;s opinion about you get in to your head. You know yourself better than anyone, remember that. And try to keep this in mind, %26quot;you cannot stop everyone from saying negative things about you, but you can stop them from being right.%26quot; =)
